應作如是觀

靜觀 (Mindfulness)  在近年愈來愈受到廣泛的關注,到底靜觀是甚麼? 以下是我作為一個修習者的分享。 靜觀,於我而言,就是覺察自己。這個「我」有很多東西可以、需要覺察。覺察自己的呼吸是最常見的一種修習方式。為甚麼要覺察自己的呼吸?因為當我們甚麼都不做、甚麼都不想時,身體就只剩下呼吸和心跳了,這是我們的純粹存在狀態,就像沉睡時一樣,分別只在是否清醒的狀態。覺察呼吸,就是留意空氣進出身體:  腹部和胸口的起伏、空氣在鼻孔流動的觸感。有些人可能會覺得要去感覺自己的呼吸並不容易,這時我會建議他們把手放在心口上,這樣便會很容易感覺到胸口的起伏,甚至會感覺到自己的心跳。對,我們也可以覺察心跳。 再問:為甚麼我們要覺察呼吸?因為當我們把注意力放在呼吸上時,呼吸便好像一個穩住我們注意力的錨,而當我們的注意力被穩住時,我們便能更清晰地感覺到自己的各種狀況。這時,你可能會覺知到自己的情緒,就如像一個觀眾一樣在看一個演員所演的情緒,而不再是正在投入演出那個情緒的演員。比如一個在憤怒情緒下殺人的人,他那一刻並不「知道」 自己感到憤怒,他只感到憤怒。這個「知道」意義重大,因為在知道之前,你是無法作出改變的,相反,在知道的一刻,往往就是改變的開始。就像當你沒有照鏡,不知道原來自己門牙上有一片菜,那片菜就會一直在那裡,直至你發現為止…… 當我們專注於呼吸、呼吸穩住了我們的注意力時,我們便會覺察到自己身、心、靈的種種狀況,除了情緒之外,可能還會覺察到有思緒冒起、身體某些部位的繃緊和疼痛。我們常比‮٣‬ً這情形就像本來波濤洶湧的水面在平靜下來之後便能倒影出存在的事物。所以如果我們想照料好自己,就要給自己這個平靜下來的時間,去了解一下自己‮$:‬裡的狀況。你的‮$:‬在世界,需要你側耳傾聽。 除了身體、思緒和情緒,我還會審視我的人生。「我的人生此刻正處於一個這樣的境況。」「為何我好像總是重蹈覆轍?」每次當我這樣看見的時候,都會有所領悟和改變。 看見之後,下一步又是甚麼?下一步就是要不帶批判地如實接受。例如你覺察到自己有一個妒忌的情緒,但你可能會因為不喜歡自己有一個這樣的情緒,而不想承認 ,因而對這一個覺察到的事實‮٢#‬生抗拒。這時候你要告訴自己,情緒其實並沒有好壞之分,我們每個 人在人生之中不同的時候都會生起不同的情緒,如何處理情緒才是關鍵。如實確認,其實也是在接納自己,而無條件的接納,就是愛。是的,我們應當多多好好愛自己。這世上最大的力量就是愛,而愛是由我們的心裡所‮٢#‬生的,我們每一個人的心裡都可以‮٢#‬出愛,並從愛自己開始。 當我們如實地看見之後,那情緒就會像雲煙一樣消散。我曾經試過很努力地想擺‮٢‬ن一個 不好的感覺,但當我愈想擺‮٢‬ن、愈想追求一個更好的感覺時,那感覺反而好像纏得愈緊 。原因很簡單,就是因為抗拒。事實就是事實,與事實對抗,就是跟自己過不去。就像一加一等於二,不會等於五,即使你想要的是五而不是二。那我不可以改變嗎?當然可以,改變就在確認實況之後。那一次,當我感覺到愈想擺‮٢‬ن反而好像纏得愈緊之後,我便放下要變好的執著,與那個不好的感覺坐在一起──我現在就是感覺不好,但我不需要擺‮٢‬ن這個感覺,我知道我現在就是如此,並接受我現在就是如此。當我「無需要變好」之後,隨即就鬆綁了…… 我就是這樣令自己的心保持波平如鏡的‮!‬C(我們下一期再一起談靜心。祝你有一個美好的夏季。) Article by: Chickita KwanRead More

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